My twin sons are like vampire - sucking my blood dry. Really do not know what is wrong with them. They have been skipping school since Monday. Yesterday they went and today again stayed at home.
They give loads of excuses and refused to change into their uniform. Hate thei, hate that, everything is people's fault. They are the victims. We as paretns are not like that why is it we have sons who are like that??????
Many friends and my relatives had said that I have not done enough to help them. Really need to keep everything to myself and not tell others. They simply will not understand what I have gone through.
Actually I feel really sad and blue whenever they do not behave like normal kids. Why is it the girls are able to thrive under my guidance but the boys simply are going the opposite direction? Told Joe they hate the Singapore system so we need to send them back to Australia or enrol them to international schools. this school refusal thing is destroying my relationship with them as well as my self confidence as an able adult. I must confess I sometimes have negative thoughts so often that I had to keep telling myself to go on. Who knows there might be news either twins kill by mum or mum committing suicide on inability to cope with life???
I really see no need to continue to suffer their abuse really. The school has not been helpful. Asking for a Letter of referral is like forever. somehow I am going to send them to child guidance clinic for treatment. Hopefully the professionals will be able to help in getting them to listen.
Thursday, February 25, 2010
Monday, February 22, 2010
Feeling Monday blues
Last Saturday I was the MCee for woodlands Zone 11 RC Chinese Dinner Feast. Actually everyone was busy preparing the occasion on Friday night and on Saturday morning. Friday night many helped in decorating the venue and Saturday night we were preparing the mandarin oranges and getting the things ready. For this event, Irene was the most pitiful. She was the one selling most of the dinner tickets at $20 per pax and getting sponsorships for the various things. Nowadays people have all sorts of reasons of not being able to help out. Somehow Lack of trust is a really fact. Actually we are all volunteers so there is really no need to second guess too much. I hope everyone can just give all they can and contribute like before. I was really tired after the event as I have not worn long heels for a really long time and all the standing is really too much for me. Luckily all went okay and we had a lot of fun too.
The next day, members were supposed to gather at 4pm to prepare for the Chinggay float event. My kids were really not cooperative and so I was half an hour late when I arrived. Children played and ran about for a while and the sky suddenly turned dark and it started to rain cats and dogs. Everyone was trapped under the tentage and my two sons could not stopped complaining. In the end, I allowed then\m to be drenched as I had bought some clothes for them to change.
The evening we had some la wei fan. I had cooked it at 2pm and it was kept in the thermal pot. Sons were busy playing and watching the programme after that. The Ching gay processsion was delayed as some of the floats were damaged by the heavy down pour. We ended up waited for a lont time. This year's floats were quite disappointing as they only had 4 floats coming our way. My kids and I were lucky enough to catch 4 other floats while on our way home after the event. Somehow spending so long there is a really big mistake. We only reached home at 11pm and kids only got to bed at 12am.
This morning the boys acted out and refused to go to school. Really angry with them but what can I say? The answer is that the boys will not go out with me again lo. They are now used to sprouting foul languages and even did that in public. Their behaviour is a disgrace to me as well. Fighting and pushing and bickering in public. Really hope to send them abroad as far away from me as possible. Anyone keen on adopting a pair of twins????
The next day, members were supposed to gather at 4pm to prepare for the Chinggay float event. My kids were really not cooperative and so I was half an hour late when I arrived. Children played and ran about for a while and the sky suddenly turned dark and it started to rain cats and dogs. Everyone was trapped under the tentage and my two sons could not stopped complaining. In the end, I allowed then\m to be drenched as I had bought some clothes for them to change.
The evening we had some la wei fan. I had cooked it at 2pm and it was kept in the thermal pot. Sons were busy playing and watching the programme after that. The Ching gay processsion was delayed as some of the floats were damaged by the heavy down pour. We ended up waited for a lont time. This year's floats were quite disappointing as they only had 4 floats coming our way. My kids and I were lucky enough to catch 4 other floats while on our way home after the event. Somehow spending so long there is a really big mistake. We only reached home at 11pm and kids only got to bed at 12am.
This morning the boys acted out and refused to go to school. Really angry with them but what can I say? The answer is that the boys will not go out with me again lo. They are now used to sprouting foul languages and even did that in public. Their behaviour is a disgrace to me as well. Fighting and pushing and bickering in public. Really hope to send them abroad as far away from me as possible. Anyone keen on adopting a pair of twins????
Monday, February 15, 2010
Chinese new yr gathering
chinese new year is always a time to catch up on one another's life.On the 30th, I went to woodlands factory tp get the roast products that we had ordered. After that, we went to distribute the items. Glad to be of some service to others so I did not mind helping to order and deliver.
After that, went to mum's place to help her with her cooking. cooked shark fin soup there. I ended up getting mum pigs stomach soup and mixed vegetables back home. cooked a few dishes and I am not so pleased with the out come. While I was busy at mum's place, Joe brought the family to the Da bei yuan temple to pray to our ancestors. they picked up the Poon Choy that I had ordered from Boon Tong kee as well.
When I reached home, I immdeiately set to cook the other dishes that I have decided to cook. I had to cook leeks with bean curd as it is a must to eat. ended up we still have a lot of left overs as the poon choy was already a very big dish to finish.
Yesterday morning, we packed a box of poon choy items and brought it to mum's place. everyone thinks it is quite tasty. Think next yr I will go help to cook and then bring home some and then buy a poon choy again to save trouble. Mum was delighted to see us visitng her in the morning. After that, we fetched mum and then went to visit her brother. Met joe's cousins there and everyone is as usual. glad to see everything in the pink of health.
We left uncle's place at 4 pm so we decided to go to River hong bao. This yr there was nothing to see and taste amd it was quite boring. We ended up paying $50 for uncle ringo's rides there. Each ticket cost $2.50 and each ride needs 3 tickets so each ride is $7.50. Really too expensive but to make our kids happy, we were willing to part with the $50.
We drove to Kitty's place after that. Been a while since we have seen everyone so it is really nice to see everyone. Somehow We are not the only ones to face the challenges of raising kids. Everyone of us are the same. Life is like cooking, I cooked La mei fan and duck with Sun kua to the gathering. Thought the second dish will be okay but it ended up not so popular. This dish needs time and effort to prepare and I did not use enough time to cook it so the vegetables still not tender. S for the la mei fan, differnt ingredients have to be chopped and throw in. the whole cooking process is not too tedious when we have the ready made la wei. Somehow parenting is like cooking a dish, the right ingredients might not end up with a good dish, the time to cook and stew, the right seasoning and stuff and lots of concentration is required.
Love having gathering. Maybe next yr can consider holding a gathering at my place then.
After that, went to mum's place to help her with her cooking. cooked shark fin soup there. I ended up getting mum pigs stomach soup and mixed vegetables back home. cooked a few dishes and I am not so pleased with the out come. While I was busy at mum's place, Joe brought the family to the Da bei yuan temple to pray to our ancestors. they picked up the Poon Choy that I had ordered from Boon Tong kee as well.
When I reached home, I immdeiately set to cook the other dishes that I have decided to cook. I had to cook leeks with bean curd as it is a must to eat. ended up we still have a lot of left overs as the poon choy was already a very big dish to finish.
Yesterday morning, we packed a box of poon choy items and brought it to mum's place. everyone thinks it is quite tasty. Think next yr I will go help to cook and then bring home some and then buy a poon choy again to save trouble. Mum was delighted to see us visitng her in the morning. After that, we fetched mum and then went to visit her brother. Met joe's cousins there and everyone is as usual. glad to see everything in the pink of health.
We left uncle's place at 4 pm so we decided to go to River hong bao. This yr there was nothing to see and taste amd it was quite boring. We ended up paying $50 for uncle ringo's rides there. Each ticket cost $2.50 and each ride needs 3 tickets so each ride is $7.50. Really too expensive but to make our kids happy, we were willing to part with the $50.
We drove to Kitty's place after that. Been a while since we have seen everyone so it is really nice to see everyone. Somehow We are not the only ones to face the challenges of raising kids. Everyone of us are the same. Life is like cooking, I cooked La mei fan and duck with Sun kua to the gathering. Thought the second dish will be okay but it ended up not so popular. This dish needs time and effort to prepare and I did not use enough time to cook it so the vegetables still not tender. S for the la mei fan, differnt ingredients have to be chopped and throw in. the whole cooking process is not too tedious when we have the ready made la wei. Somehow parenting is like cooking a dish, the right ingredients might not end up with a good dish, the time to cook and stew, the right seasoning and stuff and lots of concentration is required.
Love having gathering. Maybe next yr can consider holding a gathering at my place then.
Tuesday, February 9, 2010
What's up
These few days I have been feeling rather happy as Joe will be returning for chinese New year. All the Chinese New year barang barang have been taken care of so we do not have to worry much.
Boys been quite cooperative lately, We get to school early for the past 2 days. Saturday I refused to bring them to the Rugby lesson so maybe that has helped in their attitude. I must show them I mean what I say.
Sons told me that the school counsellor asked them to go to her room today. She probably did some counselling with them.
This morning I went to Mum's place with Adeline as we wanted to do prawn dates there. Ended up we did not much as mum's blender was broken and we do not want to chop the ingredients with a chopper. At about 11 plus, we drove off to Orchard Hyatt hotel to collect the kuey lapis that Adeline had ordered. somehow it's really funny why people are so keen on the little cake. After that, we drove to her workplace to unload some of the cakes to her colleagues. When we reached Adeline's place, we immediately started to prepare to do the prawn dates. I only did a few as I had agreed to drive my RC Kakis to visit Alex. He has stones in his gall bladder so he has been admitted into Mt Alvernia.
We stayed till about 5 plus and then we sent them back to Rc. I fetched Channery and then drove to fetch the children. Waited quite some time before the kids strolled out of their school. Kids wanted ice cream so I gave them a treat. After that, we had dinner with Adeline, alwin, her mum in law and her sister in law. Adeline was left doing the prawn dates when I left at 3pm so I feel paisay. I paid for the zhu chao and it is not too expensive la. After dinner, we collected the prawn dates from aidi and we went to distribute to elder and second sis.
When we came back, kids still quite cooperative and I feel wuite blessed that they are getting better and better.
Boys been quite cooperative lately, We get to school early for the past 2 days. Saturday I refused to bring them to the Rugby lesson so maybe that has helped in their attitude. I must show them I mean what I say.
Sons told me that the school counsellor asked them to go to her room today. She probably did some counselling with them.
This morning I went to Mum's place with Adeline as we wanted to do prawn dates there. Ended up we did not much as mum's blender was broken and we do not want to chop the ingredients with a chopper. At about 11 plus, we drove off to Orchard Hyatt hotel to collect the kuey lapis that Adeline had ordered. somehow it's really funny why people are so keen on the little cake. After that, we drove to her workplace to unload some of the cakes to her colleagues. When we reached Adeline's place, we immediately started to prepare to do the prawn dates. I only did a few as I had agreed to drive my RC Kakis to visit Alex. He has stones in his gall bladder so he has been admitted into Mt Alvernia.
We stayed till about 5 plus and then we sent them back to Rc. I fetched Channery and then drove to fetch the children. Waited quite some time before the kids strolled out of their school. Kids wanted ice cream so I gave them a treat. After that, we had dinner with Adeline, alwin, her mum in law and her sister in law. Adeline was left doing the prawn dates when I left at 3pm so I feel paisay. I paid for the zhu chao and it is not too expensive la. After dinner, we collected the prawn dates from aidi and we went to distribute to elder and second sis.
When we came back, kids still quite cooperative and I feel wuite blessed that they are getting better and better.
Thursday, February 4, 2010
Feeling quite happy
This morning sons refused to get ready for school and we left Toa Payoh at abt 6.50am. There was an accident on PIE so we ended up reaching school at 7.30am. Usually without jam, I will be able to send them to school in 20 mins time.
After that, I sent Channery to school and she was so upset that she could not play at the playground for a while. Can't afford to do so as I need to go for Aqua aerobic in yishun swimming complex. Barely made it on time as I still need to change into my swimming costume. The one hour lesson was really fun and I really had a great workout. After taking my bath, I drove to Woodlands CC to meet Irene, Adalene and Mdm Lew. They were helping Alex with the New Yr dinner invitation cards for grassroot leaders. Only took us a while to complete the task. After that, we went for lunch and then proceed to Woodlands Loop Blk 15 to check the the price of Roast goods. Mum wanted to buy for chinese new year and I had promised to get it for her. Been to a few factory and I placed order wtih Kim hock after comparing the prices.
After that, we went to Bengawan Solo factory and I bought a box of sugee cookies. I simply love eating this cookie from Bengawan Solo. After buying the cookies, I dropped Irene and Mdm Lew at Admiralty MRT station as Irene wanted to go bank and I sent Adalene home.
After rushing to Yew Tee, I was still not late and even had some time to clean up the car. This morning I told sons I was not going to fetch them for lunch and they have to take their lunch in school and stay in the library till 3.45pm for their CCA - Rugby. When I fetched charlynn, I found Chantz had left his lunch money and water bottle in the car. In the end, Charlynn had to send it to him then. He is really a very careless boy.
Mum called at that time and asked if I was available to ferry her to Yishun to buy incense for Chinese New year. Told her I could meet her at about 2.30pm. We had our lunch and went to buy bread. Just when we were about to go to the basement carpark, Mum called out to us. She said she came down so we do not have to go upstairs to look for her.
We drove to Yishun and mum really bought a lot of incense. I had to put down my third row of seats to accomodate the items she bought. After buying the things, we drove back to Buangkok and we stayed there till 5.15pm before we went to fetch Channery.
Actually I was really lucky not to receive a parking fine for parking my car illegally outside the child care centre. Luckily we arrived just when the carpark attendant was about to give me a fine. Next time I must make sure one of the kids are there jaga the car.
When we fetched the boys after wards, they were so hungry that they gobbled up the bread we bought for breakfast. After dropping the kids, I stayed to clean up the car. Somehow kids could dirty the car so quickly even though I had done cleaning up in the afternoon. When UI walked back to the block, I found Charlynn, Channery and our dog JJ at the void deck. I left all the bags I was holding and went to the market to buy bread.
When we came back, boys as usual not cooperating and were watching TV. I need to use merit points system so that they can be motivated to cooperate. Fed up with caning and scolding. They will need to want to do the things willingly la.
Okay gotta go as I need to check their bags for whatever.
After that, I sent Channery to school and she was so upset that she could not play at the playground for a while. Can't afford to do so as I need to go for Aqua aerobic in yishun swimming complex. Barely made it on time as I still need to change into my swimming costume. The one hour lesson was really fun and I really had a great workout. After taking my bath, I drove to Woodlands CC to meet Irene, Adalene and Mdm Lew. They were helping Alex with the New Yr dinner invitation cards for grassroot leaders. Only took us a while to complete the task. After that, we went for lunch and then proceed to Woodlands Loop Blk 15 to check the the price of Roast goods. Mum wanted to buy for chinese new year and I had promised to get it for her. Been to a few factory and I placed order wtih Kim hock after comparing the prices.
After that, we went to Bengawan Solo factory and I bought a box of sugee cookies. I simply love eating this cookie from Bengawan Solo. After buying the cookies, I dropped Irene and Mdm Lew at Admiralty MRT station as Irene wanted to go bank and I sent Adalene home.
After rushing to Yew Tee, I was still not late and even had some time to clean up the car. This morning I told sons I was not going to fetch them for lunch and they have to take their lunch in school and stay in the library till 3.45pm for their CCA - Rugby. When I fetched charlynn, I found Chantz had left his lunch money and water bottle in the car. In the end, Charlynn had to send it to him then. He is really a very careless boy.
Mum called at that time and asked if I was available to ferry her to Yishun to buy incense for Chinese New year. Told her I could meet her at about 2.30pm. We had our lunch and went to buy bread. Just when we were about to go to the basement carpark, Mum called out to us. She said she came down so we do not have to go upstairs to look for her.
We drove to Yishun and mum really bought a lot of incense. I had to put down my third row of seats to accomodate the items she bought. After buying the things, we drove back to Buangkok and we stayed there till 5.15pm before we went to fetch Channery.
Actually I was really lucky not to receive a parking fine for parking my car illegally outside the child care centre. Luckily we arrived just when the carpark attendant was about to give me a fine. Next time I must make sure one of the kids are there jaga the car.
When we fetched the boys after wards, they were so hungry that they gobbled up the bread we bought for breakfast. After dropping the kids, I stayed to clean up the car. Somehow kids could dirty the car so quickly even though I had done cleaning up in the afternoon. When UI walked back to the block, I found Charlynn, Channery and our dog JJ at the void deck. I left all the bags I was holding and went to the market to buy bread.
When we came back, boys as usual not cooperating and were watching TV. I need to use merit points system so that they can be motivated to cooperate. Fed up with caning and scolding. They will need to want to do the things willingly la.
Okay gotta go as I need to check their bags for whatever.
Wednesday, February 3, 2010
Been missing
Been missing as I am trying to cope with life's challenges. Boys are a handful and not so keen on learning. Should let them be and let them face the consequences but how to?
Should not complaine about them and look at their strengths but somehow it is so difficult.
Let me go back to workforce and enjoy life earning money rather than staying at home and face the 2 boys. They practically suck blood and I am losing my cool.
I am thinking of sending Charles to Australia for his studies. He can choose to come back for Chinese new yr or not. I will work and send him abroad and won't have to tahan him again. A son that practically drive his mum up the walls is not a good one. Sending him away could be an option for us.
Should not complaine about them and look at their strengths but somehow it is so difficult.
Let me go back to workforce and enjoy life earning money rather than staying at home and face the 2 boys. They practically suck blood and I am losing my cool.
I am thinking of sending Charles to Australia for his studies. He can choose to come back for Chinese new yr or not. I will work and send him abroad and won't have to tahan him again. A son that practically drive his mum up the walls is not a good one. Sending him away could be an option for us.
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