Killing the baby?

I watched a Movie on how a couple living in the 50s in Rural USA struggled to bring up their down sydrome baby up normally. At that time, doctor said to send the kid to the institution and they probably won't survive till 20 yrs old.

The parents wanted the best for their disabled daughter and yet there were many frustrations. Mother uprooted family to California whereby there was a schoo for down sydrome kids. Mother thought the schooling would made her child better but it was just to teach them basic social skills and would not improve their mental abilities. Mother neglected the other 3 siblings as she devoted her time to her disabled daughter. Puberty sets in and the child wanted to have a family too. Parents made the decision to send her to an all girl institution whereby she mingled with the other girls her age and awa from boys.

When I was in the university, Joe and I were able to mingle and understand these group of disability kids as we were in the Welfare Services Club. The club had groups that interact with kids from various disabilities group. To have kids with disabilities can be very stressful for parents.

When I was conceiving Channery, the blood test showed that she might be a down sydrome kid. I was 4 and a half month pregnant and so what if she was? Am I supposed to go ahead and abort her? Joe and I decided that we would not go for further test and let nature take its own course. We did however change my KK hospital gynae as he was not caring and understanding. We went back to Yvonne Soong who delivered my 3 babies and went to Thomson hospital. Cost is definitely more but we felt better supported. The following scan and she assured us that we would have a healthy baby even though baby Channery was a very small built ( like the granny).

Channery was really a lucky baby, She was born with the umbilical cord around her neck three times. If we decided not to induce her earlier, she might be strangled to death? We wanted a baby girl and we have her. She is a stubborn girl and still very small in size but she is growing. She is my gift and we are glad we made the decision to have another baby even though sometimes she can be quite a handful.

The decision to be a stay home mum is good as I get to enjoy their growing years..