Letter from Mother in Law

Received a letter from mother in law yesterday. She sounded happy that she does not have to live with me. She even said that I should not blame myself that we could not stay together as that's life. She said that every household has a story to tell and she really thinks staying in Toa Payoh is best for her. She has everything she needs and old friends nearby. She said that she is getting older and she finds child rearing job really taxing. It is best that I will be the one to fill in the role.

Frankly speaking, I am most grateful to her. She has fulfilled her job by raising my hubby and it is not fair for her to do the job again. In fact, she has been helping us to raise my kids where I was not around. At that time, I was always busy - work, grassroot work, study and other commitments. With her around, I was able to excuse myself and do all those things without feeling guilty.

Now staying home with kids and I realized it is really a tiring and demanding job. Grandparents should have the role of grandparents and parents are supposed to do theirs. Discipline are to be carried out by parents if not all parties will feel confused and cheated or even resentment. Grandparents are to just giving some advice and be the doting grandparents.