Friday, May 30, 2008

Light switch

Yesterday my sons damaged the light switch in their rooms. The whole light switch came off. Called up the agent and guess what? The owners came to repair the switch. The owners are a pair of brothers. They looked rather young and their mother is in the retirement village. The retirement village is not an aged home as the environment is very conducive. There are lots of brochures encouraging the aged to buy the apartments there.

Told my kids that we were not going to support them after they turned 18. They have to earn their own keep for their monthly allowances. As I am not likely to go back to the work force, Joe had to save up the money for our old age. Why am I saying that as by the time I go back Singapore, I would be 38/39. Who would wanna employ a older employee than fresh graduate? Moreover, I probably will stay at home to look after Channery. It's kind of essential to be around during the kids growing years.
Since Joe said he is able to support the family, I am happy to be a tai tai.

Today will be going out to eat as did not expect to be able to cook. Will visit a Vietnamese restaurant DA Da. The food is quite tasty.

Tomorrow we will be going to catch a glimpse of whales again at Botany Bay as last week we did not manage to see them. There were sightings in the morning so we will leave early tomorrow. wish us luck and we wil keep you guys updated if we were lucky.

Thursday, May 29, 2008

Careless mum

Yesterday evening the children and I had the first experience of hailstones. The hailstones hit the zinc roof of my bins shelter and made a thud thud thud sound. I went out to check and realized it was raining with hailstones. told the kids the sky is raining ice cubes and they ran to see it. Yes the size is rather small not the ping pong size reported in Blue Mountain. It's about the size of marbles. Interesting to see the hailstones bouncing off the ground. We were really excited of seeing hailstones fir te first time. At night we watched a documentary half tree half man and it was really scary to see the man covered with Warts. Doctor's examination said that his white blood cell was low so his body was unable to fight the disease. He was in a freak show in order to earn some money to support his family. His fingernails seems like plant and his body was covered with black plant-like spots. His other peforming troupe members were also having some form of skin dsorders. Can you imagine bubbles on body? That was the condition of bubble man and long nose man with face deformed. none of them said die or give up. They all wanna live and support themselves.

This morning I woke up to prepare Sushi for kids and we were running late. Children were sick of sandwiches even though they have different ingrdients in the bread. Sometimes being housewife can be demoralizing as kids can be really unkind in their comments. They love the school canteen food and ready snacks from the supermarket. Have tried to incorporate those in their lunch box but they still quite choosy.

After sending kids to school I came back with Channery. Channery had so many things that I needed to hold on her story book, her bottle, he bag that my hands gave way and she fell to the floor while getting out the car. Not very high but enough for her to cry her eyes out. She could not stop crying and that made me very angry. I scolded her but actually I was mad with myself for not holding her properly. A check on her injuries and she had bruises on her ears and behind the ears. So much for being a mother. She was okay from my observation.Now she is sleeping soundly on the sofa. We had sushi, vegetable sausage rice for lunch just now. She even had a whole bottle of apple juice. Seems like she was okay.

Now watching the show Rose Red. Scary but enjoyable.

Wednesday, May 28, 2008

Stay home DAD

Today Joe stayed at home and Channery and I felt very blessed and relaxed with him around. Told him that he did not spend enough time with baby and me so he decided to make the change. After fetching the children from school, he came back saying that he was going to fetch them from school everyday. i am happy to hear that too as I find that waiting for him to come back can be a chore.

This morning we went to the shop for groceries shopping. Imagine spending about $80 even though I was ther on Monday. AFter we came back, I immediately umpacked the items. Channery was quite a dear today with daddy around. I did the laundry and cooked chicken curry for lunch. At noon time, I watched a show Stephen king's Rose Red Part 1. It was a scary movie and Joe was afraid Channery would be affected so he insisted that I changed channel. Okay with me so I did what I was told but after a while my darling fell asleep and I was able to switched back. Channery woked up after the show ended perfect timing. Tomorrow and Friday PArt 2 and 3 will be shown and I hope will be able to catch the show.

Joe went to fetch kids and after that he asked the children to do homework. Charles made a fuss and refused to sit down to do his work. We got so worked up and nearly beat him up. We decided to talk to him sensibly and he finally cooperated after we challenged him using a stop watch. He was simply being attention seeking and wanted to win.

I heled Charlynn with her colouring and guess what? Chantz suddenly burst out saying I was unfair. He completed his work without help but I helped Charlynn. The children were sensitive and thought that we practise favouritism. Maybe to some extent as the boys always get into trouble and receiving scolding and beating from us.

I remembered the case of one of my pupil. Parents can't handle him and said he had anger management problem and outbursts but in school, teachers have only praises for the boy. I think we as parents really have a lot to learn. Having many children needs lots of patience and love. The middle child will always be there to provoke to get attention -even negative ones.

Tuesday, May 27, 2008

Yesterday was H's birthday. I thought she had gone to Beijing and after calling her, found out that she was still in Singapore. Her flight was yesterday's night. Been friends for really so long and glad that we are still celebrating each other's birthdaya. Hope to celebrate many more birthdays with her.

Yesterday charlynn was sick. I received a call to go fetch her. She was sick as she ran to the the park early morning to find her elastic band. Actually should not have allowed her to go alone. what ifs? Well!Next time must think safety- esp girls.

After I fetch her back, I gave her panadol and she went to sleep. After sleeping for nearly 2 hours, she woke up feeling okay. She just caught a cold running in the cold weather. I went out at 2 plus to get the groceries before I went to fetch the boys.
When we came back boys were loud and playful. I found cups unwash in the sink and wanted them to wash their own cups and Charles shouted at me. I got so angry I used the broom to smack him on his calf. He ran off to my room. Later that night Charlynn found his broken spectacle. Last week he already broke his spectacle after a beating from Joe and now again. I am not going to bring him to get new spectacles fixed as he deserved to go around seeing the world blurred as he asked for it. I am so sick of picking up pieces for him. Luckily I managed to screwed and glued back his spectacle.

Children kept asking when was Joe coming back. Well! Angry with Joe of calling to inform us that he would be late. That is very inconsiderate of him. Everyone waiting for him. Hope he will call to inform if he is going to be late. Sick of telling him over and over it again.

Boys bought iccream from the ice-cream truck that comes around the neighbourhood for $8. Let them be as they have a right to spend their money but they were supposed to ask for permission whether they can buy the items. I am not going to allow them to buy that as there was no space in my tiny fridge.

Today Children quite alright. Been really angels I would say. Went shopping with Channery and bought some fruits and eggs. After we came back, Channery went to sleep till 2pm and I have time to clean up.

Tonight's dinner will be simple. Bye now

Monday, May 26, 2008

The Daffodil Principle



Hi friends, I got this from a friend and find it very touching.

The Daffodil Principle

Several times my daughter had telephoned to say, "Mother, you must come
to see the daffodils before they are over.''

I wanted to go, but it was a two-hour drive from Laguna to Lake Arrowhead.
"I will come next Tuesday", I promised a little reluctantly on her third call.

Next Tuesday dawned cold and rainy. Still, I had promised, and reluctantly I
drove there. When I finally walked into Carolyn's house, I was welcomed by the
joyful sounds of happy children. I delightedly hugged and greeted my grandchildren.

"Forget the daffodils, Carolyn! The road is invisible in these clouds and fog, and there is nothing in the world except you and these children that I want to see badly enough to drive another inch!"

My daughter smiled calmly and said, "We drive in this all the time, Mother."

"Well, you won't get me back on the road until it clears, and then I'm heading for home!" I assured her.

"But first we're going to see the daffodils. It's just a few blocks," Carolyn said. "I'll drive. I'm used to this."

"Carolyn," I said sternly, "Please turn around."

"It's all right, Mother, I promise. You will never forgive yourself if you miss this experience."

After about twenty minutes, we turned onto a small gravel road and I saw a small church. On the far side of the church, I saw a hand lettered sign with an arrow that read, "Daffodil Garden."

W e got out of the car, each took a child's hand, and I followed Carolyn down
the path. Then, as we turned a corner, I looked up and gasped. Before me lay
the most glorious sight.

It looked as though someone had taken a great vat of gold and poured it over
the mountain peak and its surrounding slopes. The flowers were planted in
majestic, swirling patterns, great ribbons and swaths of deep orange, creamy
white, lemon yellow, salmon pink, saffron and butter yellow. Each
different-colored variety was planted in large groups so that it swirled and
flowed like its own river with its own unique hue. There were five acres of
flowers.

"Who did this?" I asked Carolyn.

"Just one woman," Carolyn answered. "She lives on the property.
That's her home." Carolyn pointed to a well-kept A-frame house, small and
modestly sitting in the midst of all that glory. We walked up to the house.

On the patio, we saw a poster. "Answers to the Questions I Know You Are
Asking", was the headline.

The first answer was a simple one. "50,000 bulbs," it read.

The second answer was, "One at a time, by one woman. Two hands, two feet,
and one brain."

The third answer was, "Began in 1958."

For me, that moment was a life-changing experience. I thought of this woman
whom I had never met, who, more than forty years before, had begun, one bulb at
a time, to bring her vision of beauty and joy to an obscure mountaintop. Planting one bulb at a time, year after year, this unknown woman had forever changed the world in which she lived.

One day at a time, she had created something of extraordinary magnificence,
beauty, and inspiration. The principle her daffodil garden taught is one of the
greatest principles of celebration.

That is, learning to move toward our goals and desires one step at a time,
often just one baby-step at a time and learning to love the doing, learning to
use the accumulation of time. When we multiply tiny pieces of time with small
increments of daily effort, we too will find we can accomplish magnificent
things. We can change the world รข€¦

"It makes me sad in a way," I admitted to Carolyn. "What might
I have accomplished if I had thought of a wonderful goal thirty five or forty
years ago and had worked away at it 'one bulb at a time' through all those
years? Just think what I might have been able to achieve!"

My daughter summed up the message of the day in her usual direct way.
"Start tomorrow," she said.

She was right. It's so pointless to think of the lost hours of yesterdays. The
way to make learning a lesson of celebration instead of a cause for regret is
to only ask, "How can I put this to use today?"

Use the Daffodil Principle. Stop waiting.....


Until your car or home is paid off
Until you get a new car or home
Until your kids leave the house
Until you go back to school
Until you finish school
Until you clean the house
Until you organize the garage
Until you clean off your desk
Until you lose 10 lbs.
Until you gain 10 lbs.
Until you get married
Until you get a divorce
Until you have kids
Until the kids go to school
Until you retire
Until summer
Until spring
Until winter
Until fall
Until you die...

There is no better time than right now to be happy. Happiness is a journey,
not a destination.

So work like you don't need money. Love like you've never been hurt, and dance
like no one's watching.

If you want to brighten someone's day, pass this on to someone special. I
just did!

Wishing you a beautiful, daffodil day!

Don't be afraid that your life will end, be afraid that it will never begin.

Saturday, May 24, 2008

Whole week of absence

Many of u are complaining that I have not written for a whole week. I was not motivated to write anything as the computer kept skipping and the cursor kept going to the wrong place. Frustrated with the lousy keypad. The other computer just suddenly shut down.

Tuesday Our minister of transport came for a learning tour with Joe's boss and Joe came back at 11 pm. Children were alright and we ended up sleeping at 10.30pm. children were quite cooperative and Chantz did his homework for the week.

Wednesday Charlynn had netball so Joe brought her and Charles to school early at 8am. Chantz slept in and I had to send him to school. They had lunch in school and they loved it. Night time I helped Charlynn to complete a poster for her class. They were going to raise funds via 3 legged race.

Thursday Joe was at home as the children's school is celebrating its 100th years old birthday - centenary celebration. Joe sent children to school and then sent us to Woolworths Supermarket as he was going to send the car for checkup. The $25 checkup is a must to renew our car insurance and took only 10 mins. Wondered if the checkup was done properly. after that we went to children's school. The children were told to dress up as famous Australian and they had a costume parade. There were many games and food stalls. I like the "Decorate your cupcake" stall as children loved the sweet treat. Fun and nice to eat. The other stalls are pinning the tail on the dog, rolling the hoola hoop etc. Children had a lot of fun and they enjoyed spending their own pocket money. We came back for lunch and baby and I dozed off. Joe picked up children at 3pm and it was so relaxing with Joe around.

Friday was normal school days for children. The kids proudly put on the centenary badges which they received the day before. They simply felt so proud to be part of the school 100th yr old celebration. I told Joe to meet us after school as I was going to send the faulty blender back to BIG W. We got the blender changed and went back happily. We had blended celery soup using the blender and other dishes. After dinner we made cereal cookies and children helped out. They had big spoonfuls of the mixture and the cookies ended up qite gigantic. Will do it againw he children in school as the cleaning up is quite a hassle. Charles had spanking from Joe as he refused to do his Chinese class homework. He deserved the spanking as he was really rude. He even said he was going to kill everyone before killing himself. Quite a loser's attitude. He really is a heartache for us.

Today we woke up early as children had Art lesson at 11am. Charles still refused to do his homework initialy and after my persuasion, he finally agreed to do it. Managed to complete his work on time for his Art lesson. Somehow must learn how to handle his tantrums. He is the typical middle child symptoms.

We had Subway for Lunch again. Children loved the sandwich. After that we went to their school as there was program on. There were school tours, lion dance, korean dance, recorder performance, arabic dance and so on. We had gelato- ice cream cones and they cost $2.50 each. I asked Charlynn to buy food from her teacher. We rushed off to their Chinese Class at 1.45pm and after that we headed backt o school as they had a raffle draw. I decided to buy 5 more tickets as the raffle draw was to raise funds for school. Guess what, the prizes went to 3 students and 1 staff.

Children are coming back soon. Tonight we will have pork chop and vegetables with radish soup. Back to cooking now....

Monday, May 19, 2008

Saturday night the children came back rather sad as they missed the Korean Funfair. The event was till 8pm but when they were there at 5 plus after their Chinese lesson, many of the stalls have packed up.

We had dinner at home and then we watched TV. The show was Mr Bean destroying the Art piece and then restored a poster as the real pic. Funny that he can be so popular. After that we continued on the show " cast away". I like this kind of show as it reminded us to be humble and realized how fortunate one can be.

Sunday was stayed home day as quite cold. Children were very well-behaved. Joe brought them to the park and after that we went out for dinner at 7 plus. Children wanted Korean BBQ again. this time round we ordered different things and realized the ones we ordered last week were better. We have limited choices as children could not take spicy food.

This morning I sent kids to school and the carpark wardens were there. I have no choice but to drive a bit further up. Children were nearly late but they had themselves to blame for taking their own sweet time to get ready for school.

Okay got to go.

Superstition on the disasters

Read from the newspaper that some hongkong bloggers are linking China's earthquake and other recent msfortuntes to the olympic mascots.

There were speculations that four of the 5 cartoon mascots have fulfilled prophesies of doom with one more to come.

The 5 Olympic mascots are jingjing, huanhuan, yingying, nini and beibei.

Jingjing a panda is the animal most closely associated with sichuan province so there was a earthquake.

Huanhuan a cartoon character with flame-red hair is being linked by bloggers to the torch that has been dogged by anti-china protests on its round the world tour.

Yingying, an antelope is an animal confined to the borders of Tibet which has been the scence of riots and cause of international protests against China.

Nini represented by a kite as being viewed as the kite city of weifang in Shangdong where there was a deadly train crash.

That leaves beibei represented by a sturgeon fish which online bloggers suggest could indicate a looming disaster in Yangtze River as it is the only place where sturgeon is found.

Other bloggers said that the recent disasters have come on days that are related to the normally lucky Chinese number. Tibet on 14/3 (1+4+3), Earthquake on 12/5 (1+2+5).

All these bodes ill for the opening day of beijing Olympics August 8 2008 (8+8+2+8=26 =2+6= 8. Wonder if 11 June (1+1+6) will have any news from China?

Imagine people believing in all these? Funny and for a good laugh.....

Saturday, May 17, 2008

Yesterday was Friday. Joe was off early to school as he hd to complete an assignment. He workd till about 1am the night before. With us around, he really had to work extra hard as we kinda pose as distractors. Sometimes I wonder what wil Joe's life be like if he remaon single? Maybe more successful? Anyway he came back yesterday night and said he had completed his work and handed in to his supervisor. Good for him. Anyway any work from him will be so thorough and of a high standard so I won't be surprised it's a good one.

Anyway, Channery and I enjoyed ourselves at home. No stress and agenda. We just relax and enjoyed playing and watching television. We went to the supermarket at 12 plus as I realized the children have run out of oatmeal and the items were on sale. Each pack cost 50 cents less. We had fun going round and round the supermarket as Channery refused to it on the trolley. Everyone was so fascinated to see a little one running around and could not stop looking at her. I think the people thought she was still a little baby because of her size. She was really looking petite for her age. I think I am going to buy pediasure milk for her to make sure she receives the right nutrition since she is not eating much now.

At 3pm we went to fetch the kids. They were excited that they be going to their Art lesson. Channery immediately went to sleep as she had not had her afternoon nap and only woke up at 5 plus. I bought toy for Channery again as I think it will e great fun. Now the other 3 children are playing with the building blocks. Somehow I hope they will take good care of the items.

Yesterday night we had fish and chips and the children enjoyed themselves. The shop sells both the fresh and cooked seafood. you see the fresh fish, oysters, octopus on one side of the shop and people are getting cooked items at the other side of the shop.

Today woke up early to prepare special breakfast for them. Just eggs, bacon and toast bread but children love it. I think they associated with love from mama. Happy to be doing something useful. Btw children will have their chinese lesson and we are going out early to Campsie ANzac sqaure as there is a Korean food festival today. Campsie is a known Korean suburbs and they had this festival once a year. There will be performances from Korea. The Australian Korean Society is just round the corner from our house but we don't see much activities from there. In fact walking on the road and I don;t even know who is Chinese and who is Korean.

Okay got to go as kids fighting over toy.

Thursday, May 15, 2008

Yesterday Chantz received a really harsh scolding from me. He did not do his homework the night before and he only started to do it in the morning. Actually it's 10 mins before we leave home. so angry I poked him on his head and he complained my nail was too long and that was painful. Well! he deserved it and he should thank god I did not spank him.

After sending them off to school, I was still fuming so I decided to go shopping at Aldi. The usual time is only ten mins drive but yesterday I took half an hour. Thanks to the peak hour jam. I did not manage to drive out to Canterbury road till 3 changes of traffic light. The shopping was great as I felt better after that. Channery wanted to buy a spiderman toy but I said no as it was a boy's toy. Actual reason it cost $18.90 and i did not feel worth the money. Joe is now throwing away the children's toys if he found them scattered on the floor. He reasoned that if the children could not take care of the toys, they are not important and not worth keeping. Well! Easier for me as I do not have to pick and pack up after the children played with their toys.

During dinner, boys were busy playing so they missed dinner. Joe only scooped some pumpkin onto their bowls and kept the rest of the dishes. He said since they were not able to eat together, he was not going to give thema any food at all. Good that he is upholding the discipline move as I am just unable to do so.

today I woke up with a nagging headache. Now it seems to be better. Thank god.

Tuesday, May 13, 2008

Feel blessed

On Sunday, we went to a Korean restuarant to celebrate Mother's day. It was packed with customers and we waited about 20 mins for a vacant table. The restaurant looked really uninteresting as it was just outside the supermarket, Woolworths. When we walked into the interior, we were led to sit on the mats on the floor. The meal cost us $73 but we will definitely go back for more. Children enjoyed sitting down on the floor. We had Korean BBQ and the food was realy nice.

Yesterday I did spring cleaning for the whole house. Over the weekends, the house was really filthy but I have no mood to clean up. I started cleaning up at 9 plus and did not finish till about 3pm. The house is rather small but clearing and storing the stuff takes time. Did the laundry beginning of the day and after cleaning up, I ended up with a big basket of clothes again. Boys are keeping dirty clothes hidden in their rooms. I did searching of dirty clothes from their room on Friday so they must have piled up over the weekends. Chances are that they mixed the clean clothings with their dirty clothes. Somehow experts said dsylexie children f can be so unkempt but I think it can be ovecome. Having their brain wired differently does not mean they have to live differently from others. Told them they wil get spanking if they still exhibit this kind of wierd and unacceptable behaviour.

Today I read from the newspaper that China- Sichuan had a massive earthquake. Just last week, Burma had a killer Cyclone which still left the country crippled and people miserable. Not to mention in USA, the killer twisters/Tornadoes which swept across the great plains. Imagine living in these areas whereby we have no control over nature. The fact that people could lose everything and every loved ones overnight or just within split seconds!!

To never live life with regrets? I am actually feeling blessed that my family is here safe and sound witih me. Today boys are going to Powerhouse Musesum and I woke up early to prepare Sushi for them as they had requested the night before. Sometimes I do feel sad and depressed being away from loved ones from Singapore but the little ones help to ease the pain. Just now I was saying I was so cold and Channery quickly went to fetch me a blanket. She is quite a dear. How to be angry with them for long? Mothers must be big-hearted and forgiving.

Sunday, May 11, 2008

Happy mother's Day

Today is Mother's day. Will have to call up my mum and Joe's mum to wish them happy mother's day. children bought gifts from school and only give it to me today. Did not feel elated just normal. Actually before I went to bed yesterday, I suddenly had a thought of where will we be if we die? Many said a bright light at the end of a tunnel. What's that? Bringing kids to this world and letting them know and feel the helplessness. We will all die and after that what's next?

Told Joe about the thought and he said, we also have no thoughts when we came to this world. Make sense too. Don't have to worry about what will come but be happy with what you have.

Children playing by themselves now but as usual vey loud.

Hong said I must appreciate my kids and learn to relax. I am actually quite happy most of the time. People don;t write about happy times so often but they are real and there. I am touched b my kids' actions and love many a times.

According to the Happiness's seminar here in Australia, our happiness index actually
dropped drastically after having children and only recovered after children leave home. Reasons being the responsibilities of being in charge of another human being which we actually have no control over.

Mothers are made.

Friday, May 9, 2008

Staying home mums

Just read the blog entry of a stay home mum in Taipei. She is the wife of Joe's cousin. I should address her my cousin-in-law's wife. Very complicated.

Anyway she made the choice to stay home with her kids. I salute her for making the sacrifice. Yes, it is a sacrifice to stay at home. If you think women will dress to kill like those in the show "Desperate housewives". Answer is no. With children around, chances are that we are being kept on our toes all the time.

Wasting money on make up is a no-no when the amount of money can fetch me milk powder and nappies for my baby. Those who like to dress up, wonder how they keep their house clean and managed to put on nail polish. Mine came off in a day or two with so many washing and cleaning. Actually if you think I will be proud to show off my house- the answer is no. My house is like a rubbish dump. The previous minute I was labouring and cleaning up, the next minute is messy and dirty again. Kids love to mess up the place.

This moment my sons are jumping up and down at the corridor. Channery is crying for attention and want to change clothes again- Yes,she loves to parade in different clothes.

Got to go as the kids need my undivided attention again.

To look forward

Today children will be going for Art lesson and I will have an hour away from them. This morning woke up feeling happy as it was still early. I realized that being on time is important to me. When I wake up late, I must rush to get things done and I really do not like that. Preparing food for the kids can be a challenge as they are quite fussy. They had tuna sandwich instead of sushi as I realized I have to finish using the bread.

Sat and Sun can be very stressful for me as the kids are in. Sat is their Chinese class and they wil be away for 3 hours. Good as I can have a break.

To look forward to what? I have no idea but I am going to give myself the hope of happy things that might come. Having happy thoughts is important.

Now it's cold and baby sleeping. Better go get a bite as hungry liao.

Thursday, May 8, 2008

Life's ups and downs

Joe's COE, board directors and colleagues came to Sydney on Monday and Tuesday. Joe had to accompany them for their learning tour around the various departments in Sydney. It's a good chance for him to learn from the policy maker in Australia. He was not in till very late in the evening and children were given me hell at home. Got angry that he could meet fellow friends and people and I was stuck at home. Somehow I wa jealous of him even though I know I should not. With no income and freedom, I felt very much tzrapped. On Tuesday, I wanted to bring chantz to the doctor as he had a swollen neck. The same condition as I a week ago. He had many wounds that did not heal so that was probably the cause. Angry that I do not have the freedom to withdraw money as and when I need it. wonder what will happen if there was an emergency and I do not have money. Wait for Joe to come back with money. :<

Yesterday Joe brought Charlynn and Chantz to school at 8.15am as Charlynn had signed up for netball and had to report for practice till 9am. Charles wanted to sleep in so I woke him up at the usual time. I prepared their lunch and sent him to school. Later in the day, Joe called and said he would come back early to bring Chantz to doctor. Good that he remembered. When I fetched them, I heard that Joe had ordered lunch from canteen for them. See! How good we are at communicating with one another! We could be under the same roof and seem to speak different language. I did mention that they should have lunch from school canteen but not comfirmed as the cost can be rather high. Luckily I only packed a cheese snadwich, a packet of juice and a pack of biscuit with cheese. Anyway it turned out the visit to the doctor took a long time and they were not hungry as they had a full lunch. Btw guess what? The visit to the doctor and doctor said to wait for 2 days and see what happened as he was not sure where the infection so can't prescibed antibiotic. 2 days later we were to send him to hospitial for blood test.

After we came back I immediately prepared dinner as I thought it was already 6pm. Ended up dinner was ready at 5.30pm. We had an earl dinner and even had time for dessert. We had bought Easiyo pack and we had the icecream. The children helped to make yogurt and we would have that today. I realized making your own things here is important as you can save a lot. The labour cost and GST here is higher so preparing your own food is essential for us. In fact the boys and us got into an argument as they wanted to follow their class to powerhouse at $15 each and we wanted to bring them there ourselves. It's cheaper as we had signed up as powerhouse members but the boys insisted that they wanted to go with their peers. In the end, we gave in and let them have their way. Boys had been receiving physical punishment from us as they were not behaving well. I won't hesitate to give them a heavy hands as I realized talking nicely to them won't work. They need to feel the pain. Tuesday night I was so mad that I felt like running away from home. Instead I hid in my room and pretended to sleep. Whole day at home with children and I am going crazy. I have no friends here and no adult talk with anyone. Sometimes calling my friends and relatives in Singapore only made me sad and frustrated as I am so far away and there was nothing that I can do to help.

Joe has been really patient with me and taking in my tantrums and unreasonable outbursts. Sometimes I feel guilty of not being a good wife. I felt that I am turing into an old hag and the lack self confidence and purpose in life really can pull me down. Once a while I need to counsel myself and do things. The ability to transform and get things done make me happy. The ability to bake new cookies and come up with new dishes is a healing thing for me. God be with me!

Saturday, May 3, 2008

Yesterday I only started to make Jam tarts at 2.10pm but still managed to make it on time to fetch kids at 3pm. They have Art lesson at 4.30pm. In the end, we came back home as Charlynn needed to use the toilet. Her school toilet was doing cleaning. We picked Joe up and off we went to Jen's place. Children loved their Art lesson. I prepared the jam tarts and carrot cake for Jen and the kids but children forgot to take it out. Before we left Jen's place, we left the carrot cake for her and brought the tarts back as kids love the raspberry jam tarts. We had dinner at Da Da Vietnamese Restaurant. They have very nice pork chop rice. The dinner with drinks cost us 45. It was quite reasonable.

This morning we had Chee Cheong Fun but they were not as tasty as those sold in the restaurant. Maybe to find a recipe and DIY myself. After breakfast we went to the Park. The children had a lot of fun. I realized the child care centre opposite the park was having some stalls and junk sale so I walked over. I found out that they were doing a fund raising for one of their student's family. The child's house was burnt down and dad was in coma so the other parents decided to raise some money for the kid. I was happy to browse through the items on sale. In the end, we brought 6 lucky dip bags, 5 sausages ( hotdog) buns, 7 story books and two baby wood puzzle sets for Channery. The items were not too expensive and we had a lot of fun.

When we came back from the park, I immediately started to prepare lunch. Today's lunch will be chicken Tofu porridge. Not heavy as they had sausages bun earlier. The children would have Chinese lesson at Harcourt Primary school from 2-5pm. We practically dashed out of the house at about 1.40pm as Chantz was not willing to cooperate with us. He has phobia for Chinese language. Joe needed to go and withdraw money for the kids' chinese lesson and we had to be there before 2pm. The total cost is $80 per child per term.

When we reached there, the kids immediately felt at ease. Actually it's nice to be around people who speak the same language. The boys were arranged to attend P1 classes as we felt that their foundation for the language is poor. Charlynn was able to be in P3 as she was supposed to be in Sheng1 guang3 ( higher chinese ) in Singapore. In the end, boys were quite happy to be in their class as the teacher actually translated the terms in English if they could not understand. Heard from the Person in charge that some kids actually came in with no idea how to speak. Well! Will have to start to speak in Mandarin with them. They can use English in school.

Children were really well-behaved today. If only they can be so nice everyday. Tonight dinner we had Thai food at Aroy Thai and the meal cost us $63.20. It is slightly more than usual as we had fried icrecream for desserts. Children loved the treat.

Now the kids watching the show "racing Stripes". Never watched the show before and quite interesting. Okay that's all folks! I wanna catch the show.

Friday, May 2, 2008

What is important

Charles told me he was not going to take his lunchbox to school. I knew he meant it as a tease but true enough he forgot to bring and left it on the sofa. Told him while dropping them off to school that his siblings would have to share their lunch with him. Joe said I should just pack their lunch and they should not have a say as to what to eat. I, on the other hand, prefer to ask them what they want. His way and my way of teaching kids can be different. He forbids the kids to eat sweets but I will buy them. I know it's no good to feast on sweet things but who has no sweet tooth? However, I have decided to limit their sugar and artificial colouring/flavours intake as I realized the boys become hyperactive after taking the sugary stuff.

Anyway, back to Charles' lunchbox. In the end, I decided to send it to school for him during his lunch hour. I thought their lunch hour is 12pm but it was actually 1-2pm. At 1 plus, Charles and his classmates ran to the canteen to pick up the lunch carton for their classmates. They were at least 100m from the gate and I managed to get Charles to look at my way. See how powerful my voice is - loud and clear and he could hear me beneath the noises. He said no he could not come to me and he was going to class and ran off.

After a while, Chantz came down with his class. I asked him to come over and sent him to give the lunchbox to Charles. He happily went about his errand. Before long, Charles came down eating his lunch. He actually loved the chicken sandwich. He really is a really stubborn boy. Zui3 ying4 xin1 luan3. That's his style.

Today children are going to cross country event. They were really excited. Can't contain their excitement and made a lot of noise this morning. Today also happens to be walk to school day and the boys wanted to walk to school. In the end, I drove to the carpark beside the train tracks and we walked over the overhead bridge. After that I brought them safely to the other side of the road and told them to walk the rest of the journey to school. It will be very safe as they do not have to cross any roads. Need to go off as Channery wanted to catch "Sesame street" on TV. Told Joe to buy a DVD recorder but he refused. I was thinking we could record some of the children programmes for Channery as she is watching Barney over and over again since we only have that. Joe has the final say in all money matters so we only bought a DVD player.

Anyway, today is no cooking day as the kids have Art lesson and we probably will eat out. Yesterday's dinner the boys kept complaining that they hate the vegetables and Joe was mad. According to blood type diet, A ( Channery)and AB(me) must eat lots of vegetables and tofu but O (Joe)should eat meat. Charlynn, Charles and Chantz have not been tested so we do not know what they have. From my observation of their behaviour, the boys are type B and Charlynn is type A. If you wanna know what to eat for your blood type for good health. Go Google and type "Blood Type Diet" and have fun reading. I am trying out some of the recommended food so that my body works better with the right chemistry.