Parenting

I feel that I should write about what happened yesterday even though it was only a short episode. Charles was playing with the twig cutter which we used to cut mangoes and it hit the ground. I asked Charles to come in and stop playing but the stubborn boy refused. I scolded him but he denied that he dropped the cutter. I was so mad I scolded him so fiercely. Even I even threatened to cane him if he does not come in after I counted to 3. The boy reluctantly came in and ran to open the front door. I was fuming mad at his dishonesty so I ran after him. I asked him to come in but he again refused. I was so mad and felt like giving him a smack. Instead I pulled him by the hair and dragged him in. Had a talk with him and he actually felt better after that. He really is a problematic child and I become a monster dealing with him. He has a lot of issues and he kept thinking everyone else is picking on him. Chantz is no better than Charles. He gets his tantrums but not as violent as Charles. Charles even threatened to kill us all and run away form home. Can u imagine the words to come so freely from a 7 yr old? It's really a very sickening feelings that they are your doings!!! Actually Charles is a super sensitive boy and he actually quite caring when he is not " steaming". Can you imagine he felt pain even by combing his hair. More likely besides dyslexie, he could be suffering from sensory problems as well.

In the afternoon, Joe came back and he dashed into the house giving all of us the shock of our lives. Poor Channery even woke up crying. The fact that the boys have again left the door open really frustrated me. time and again they are reminded they have to ask permission to open the doors but they simply turned a deaf ear to our instructions. Who knows my bedroom is right in front and a burglar could just walk in and get all the things from the house and we won't even have a clue. I really can't appreciate my boys. They simply too much to handle. Joe does not see them every hour of the day so it's easier for him to "appreciate" their goodness. My hope of the boys learning how to take care of others probably won't come true.

I know the best way to deal with the boys is to show them love and build up their self confidence. The boys felt inferior in all aspects of their lives so they are disguishing their anxiety with anger. When they were growing up, we as parents are always not there or simply turning a blind eyes to their behaviour. WEll! now is payback and undoing time. Never leave parenting job to others- your maid and mother in law really will not be the best persons to do this important task for you.

I am praying that boys will grow up to be caring and useful citiszens. God bless!