Births

Yesterday we watched the show' The zoo" whereby a first time female elephant gave birth its calf in the zoo. Can see that she was clearly struggling to bring forth the 100kg baby. When the baby was born, the keepers rushed in to help tearing the baby from the membrane. Mother elephant was in pain and agitated. Luckily she was able to calm down and did not reject her newborn. The elephant is now 3 weeks old and the other day, we saw a photograph of it in the newspaper. First elephant to be born here in Australia. We were all so excited over the birthing process. Even the keepers and vets could not contain their joy and relief and shed tears of joy and happiness.

I am writing this entry as just finished reading an article on today's paper. It is a sad story whereby a husband found his wife unconcious on presciption drugs for post natal depression and his twins dead. The seven month old twins were not breathing when their father arrived home. In the weeks leading up to the twin's death, mother has posted comments on facebook about feeling tired and sleep deprived. It is understood that family members took turns to visit her and one of them spoke to her at 11plus and noted no indication that any thing was wrong.

Somehow whenever I read about women suffering from post natal blues always feel really sad. How they suffer - nobody wil know except themselves. Just like backache and nerve pain, the pain can be so drastic at certain one point and really everything seems so grey.

For mums of multiple births, the hormones imbalance can set about the depression. Furthermore looking after two or more babies can be a really tiring job. Having one is already a handful, let alone 2 or three.

I feel that this tragedy can be prevented if there is another person living with the family. Visiting is not enough as she is emotionally unsound and need a helping hand. simple tasks like feeding can also be really dificult for her. She needs counselling and learn coping strategies on how to think positively. Husband must be supportive and help to find ways to help with her condition.

Women are under a lot of pressure to perform --- one of them being a good mum. Somehow we women need to know that we can't be superwoman who can do all.

Been there, done that and life will go on happily if you choose to be happy. Miserable if we chose to be the victim and looking at the dark side of things. I made my choice and still having a whale of the time. What I can't deliver, even if you torture or kill me, you won't have it. What you see is what you get!!!