What will be will be

Ever wondered if your child will be some VIP or wanted criminals? As a parent, I am really afraid to think of them getting into either category. If they are VIPs, that means they will not have normal lifestyle and that we are to be constantly on our toes too. Not going to push them to be what they do not want to be. Normal working people that do their very best in whatever they are doing will be just fine for me. Having said so, Charles once told me he wanna be a firefighter and I immediately told him to reconsider. That was a few years back whereby he was only 4 or 5 yrs old. The nature of work in my eyes is simply too dangerous. At that time, I was really protective of them and scope and view of life is rather limited. Now i think back, I realized people do grow -- not in terms of sizes but thinking as well. what will be will be, can we change their thinking. Answer is definitely no.

If Charles still thinks that being a firefighter is a career he wants to pursue, I think i will encourage and support him now. Who am i to tell him not to become? We make our own marks in this world.

Actually my friend once commented that if the parents are too outstanding, the kids will not be as good as the kids' needs are well taken care of by the parents and they might not have the motivation to do their best. I think there is some truths in it except that if parents are outstanding, kids will look up to them as role models. Having good role models means your life is half way over the mark.

Yesterday's show about the couple who used hammer and screwdriver to fight is a good example whereby the parties involved are used to domestic violence. They do not know how to talk nicely or negotiate except to shout and fight. We learn how to be parents from who else but our parents. I know I am more towards laissez-faire parenting style as that was what I grew up with.

Anyway, what parenting style do you have?

Read and find out for yourself at

http://www.talaris.org/spotlight_parenting_styles.htm

I am not going to let my child grow up like weeds so I wanna try to be the Emotional coaching parents who knows how to empathize and guide.
Tough to be so but trying........