Life worth living

Whenever I read or learnt that someone had chosen to end his/her life, I will become rather disturbed. Disturbed in the sense that I felt pity for them. They really must have lost all hope and felt so miserable and chose death over living.

When I was a school counsellor, I went to a funeral wake of a kid as his mother had jumped off their flat. His mum had been combating depression for yrs and she finally took the plunge. Everything happened so fast and before long, she was down at the void deck. I was really feeling rather sad when I heard how the family had tried to cope. His grandfather told us that it was a relief for his daughter since she was finding living on so miserable. I knew both the sister and the child as I had been teaching in the school for the past few yrs. The sister never really revealed what was going on in the family and I really had no idea that she had a mother who was not coping well with life.

In fact, having a child to cope with parent committing suicide is devastationg. I have a friend whose mother hanged herself in their bathroom. She never could understand why her mother did what she did and she had the guilt that her mother did so because she was not good enough. She sometimes will become quite emotional and felt miserable. luckily for her, she had two children and she told herself she will be strong for them and she really loves her children to bits. Sometimes I do think that she is making up for what she had missed when she was a child.

According to Confucius, we do not know how to live our life to the fullest so we should not worry what happen after we depart from this world. Somehow we have this life and we should make full use of it and be contributing to the good of mankind. Escaping and able to handle what is in store for us is not really a good option. What we have, we appreciate. If not, try to improve the situation.

Once played a game. There was a line drawn at oppsite side of a rectangle. Everyone has to cross the lines with a different way. Guess what, we can be so creative and there will be tons of ways that we have not even tried before.

If you keep doing the wrong thing over and over again, pls do not expect a different outcome. Life is worth living if you embrace the changes along the way......