Marriage Vow

I take my marriage vow very seriously and hope my husband is the same. Can't say for him since I can never change him. Actually I never did write my own marriage vows but just answer "I do" during ROM. Come to think of it, it will be a good idea to renew our marriage vow every 10 or 5 yrs.

We were supposed to have a wedding photographs taken to mark our tenth marriage anniversary in 2006 but in the end never really go about doing it. We had photographs taken for my whole family instead. Joe not comfortable to don the whole thing -- he kinda thinks its wayang wayang.

We were officially married on 1st Oct 2006---Yes, the Children Day. Thinking back I still recalled a naive and blurred bride who was late for her ROM as she could not get a taxi. I could not control my tears when I finally reached the venue and learnt that we were still able to get married. Life is never so much of planning and more planning for me, I just let things happen naturally and embrace the challenges and surprises along the way.

When you love someone, you have to accept his/her shortcomings if not you going to make the choice to love or leave him. I take my marriage vow seriously but it takes two to tango. Many a times I have to lower my expectations and accept what I have. Joe and I are like two opposite poles- we complement each other but at the same time there are many conflicts of intersts. I know he has been putting up with my nonsense too and lower his expectations at the same time. What is marriage and can love and respect sustain it?? I sometime do not get his style of showing concern and love. What I need is just a shoulder to cry on and soothing words but I get someone to analyse the situation and solutions for me. When that happens, I have to tell myself that is how it's going to be...... Maye Joe thinks he is a normal guy and doing what guys do but I sometime really xxx it. He can be in a world by himself and won't share what is bothering him. It's like I am trying to break through a wall of defence.

It's like the Chinese song "Shou4 hai4 zhe3" (Victim) when her boyfriend found someone new. all her love and effort in making the relationship worked just did not work and she wondered who was really the victim... She or her boyfriend who was unable to receive her love???? Can I hope that we will be together.......

"To have and to hold from this day forward, for better for worse, for richer for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, till death us do part."